Family & marriage

Your family wants a yes, and you are not sure.

One decision, not pros and cons, with the Gita behind it.

Or start from an example:

A reading, start to finish

Sample

“I am 27. My parents have found a match they love: a kind man from a good family, and we got on well. They want the engagement before Diwali. I am not against him, I am against now. I have just started a master's that runs until June next year, and he wants to settle in another city soon after the wedding. He knows about the course, but I have never asked if he would wait. My father wants me married while he still works. If I ask for time, the match may not wait. Do I say yes now, or ask for time?”

Sarathi, the voice that reads your dilemma, asked one thing first: If you asked him directly now whether he would wait until June for the wedding, what do you think he would say? You: I think he would wait. He asked about my course both times we met.

The call

Since you have never asked if he would wait, ask him plainly now, then propose engagement before Diwali with the wedding after June.

First step

You: Ask him directly whether he would be comfortable with the wedding after June, then bring his answer to your parents.

The exact first sentence to say“Would you be comfortable with the engagement soon and the wedding after my course ends in June?”

Three options

Say yes now, as asked
Ask for time on everything
Ask him, then split engagement and wedding Sarathi leans here

Open the whole reading

Then, step by step, to the close

The same reading, followed to its end: each step marked done with how it went, and the next one written from that, until nothing was left to decide.

How each step went is ours, written for this sample like the dilemma. Every step and the close are Sarathi’s.

Step 1 done
You: Ask him directly whether he would be comfortable with the wedding after June, then bring his answer to your parents.

The exact first sentence to say“Would you be comfortable with the engagement soon and the wedding after my course ends in June?”
Went as planned You wrote:I asked him on a call. He said he had hoped I would ask, and that he is happy to wait until my course ends in June.

Pro

Every step after the first is part of Pro: each one written from how the last one went, until the dilemma is closed.

Step 2 done
You: Sit down with your parents and tell them he is happy to wait, then propose the engagement before Diwali with the wedding after June.

The exact first sentence to say“I spoke to him, and he is happy to wait until my course ends in June, so can we plan the engagement before Diwali and the wedding after?”
Partly You wrote:I told my parents his answer. My mother was relieved, but my father still worries that his family will think we are stalling.
Step 3 done
You: Ask your father to arrange a conversation with his family where he can share that the man himself is happy to wait until June.

The exact first sentence to say“Papa, he told me himself he is happy to wait, so could we tell his family that together, so no one thinks we are stalling?”
Went as planned You wrote:I sat with my father, and his only worry was what the other family would think. So the two families met, and they said the engagement before Diwali and the wedding after June suit them too.

Closed

Nothing is left to decide. This one is closed.

What you decided

Ask him first, then split the engagement and the wedding: engagement before Diwali, wedding after your course ends in June.

What you did

You asked him on a call and he said he was happy to wait. You told your parents his answer, then sat with your father about his worry over what the other family would think. Then the two families met and agreed to the plan.

Where it stands, in your words

the engagement before Diwali and the wedding after June suit them too

Why it is closed

Both families met and agreed on the plan, so the engagement before Diwali and the wedding after June is now settled for everyone, with nothing left open.

Sleep peacefully.

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1. It asks before it answers

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2. One decision, and it holds

No “it depends”. The first step, and the exact first line to say.

3. Every option, with its cost

Two to four real paths with their costs, the one Sarathi leans to marked — and a real Gita verse if one fits, never invented.

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