Relationship decisions

You love them, and you keep imagining leaving.

One decision, not pros and cons, with the Gita behind it.

Or start from an example:

A reading, start to finish

Sample

“We have been engaged for a year, together for five. Every time I ask about a wedding date, he says after his promotion, and the promotion has moved twice. Last month I learned he told his parents we have not decided whether to marry at all. He says he only wanted them to stop pushing. I love him, and our days together are good. Do I give him a deadline, or keep waiting like he asks?”

Sarathi, the voice that reads your dilemma, asked one thing first: Has he said directly that he wants to marry you, or only that he will after his promotion? You: I have asked about the date many times, but never straight out whether he still wants to marry me.

The call

Before you set a deadline or "keep waiting like he asks", the clearest next step is asking him directly whether he still wants to marry you, not only when.

First step

You: Ask him in a quiet moment whether he wants to marry you, and why he told his parents it was undecided.

The exact first sentence to say“When you told your parents we haven't decided whether to marry, was that true for you?”

Three options

Ask him directly if he wants to marry Sarathi leans here
Give him a deadline for a date
Keep waiting like he asks

Open the whole reading

Then, step by step, to the close

The same reading, followed to its end: each step marked done with how it went, and the next one written from that, until nothing was left to decide.

How each step went is ours, written for this sample like the dilemma. Every step and the close are Sarathi’s.

Step 1 done
You: Ask him in a quiet moment whether he wants to marry you, and why he told his parents it was undecided.

The exact first sentence to say“When you told your parents we haven't decided whether to marry, was that true for you?”
Partly You wrote:We talked at the weekend. He said he does want to marry me, but he wants the promotion first, and he would not name a month.

Pro

Every step after the first is part of Pro: each one written from how the last one went, until the dilemma is closed.

Step 2 done
You: Ask him what happens to the wedding if the promotion moves a third time, and whether he would choose a month regardless.

The exact first sentence to say“You said you do want to marry me, so if the promotion moves again, would you still pick a month with me?”
Went as planned You wrote:I asked him to choose a month with me, promotion or not. Two days later he said February, and he meant it.

Closed

Nothing is left to decide. This one is closed.

What you decided

Ask him directly whether he still wants to marry you, not only when, before setting a deadline or waiting longer.

What you did

You asked him in a quiet moment whether he wants to marry you; he said yes but wanted the promotion first. Then you asked him to choose a month with you, promotion or not, and he named February.

Where it stands, in your words

he said February, and he meant it

Why it is closed

The question was a deadline or more waiting, and once you asked him to "choose a month" he answered February and meant it, so nothing is left to decide here.

Sleep peacefully.

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How it works

1. It asks before it answers

Write the real tension. KarmaLens asks for the one or two facts that matter, one question at a time.

2. One decision, and it holds

No “it depends”. The first step, and the exact first line to say.

3. Every option, with its cost

Two to four real paths with their costs, the one Sarathi leans to marked — and a real Gita verse if one fits, never invented.

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