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Relationship decisions

Stay-or-leave, forgive-or-confront, boundary-or-punishment — relationship dilemmas read through eight Gita lenses, with worked examples.

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You keep score. They don't know it's a game.

You've been auditing a relationship the other person doesn't know is being audited. A KarmaLens read on the secret ledger — and the one test that tells a boundary from a sentence.

You forgave them once. They did it again. Now what?

A repeat offense feels like proof the first forgiveness was a mistake. Run one composite through four of the eight lenses and watch 'leave or stay' resolve into a third shape neither lens saw alone.

Are you giving them space, or quietly leaving?

Restraint and withdrawal wear the same face — a quiet phone. A worked read on the eight lenses that separates letting someone move from checking out while keeping the label.

You keep the peace. They keep the pattern.

You've absorbed every slight for years and called it maturity. A composite dilemma, read on four lenses, to tell equanimity you chose from avoidance you're hiding behind.

The friend who only calls when they're drowning

A fifteen-year friendship that only flows one way, read through four of the eight lenses — where non-harm and honesty openly disagree, and the resentment turns out to be a bill.

They apologized. Why does it still feel unfinished?

A sibling sends a flawless apology after breaking a promise — and accepting it feels like swallowing a stone. We separate the three things that stone actually is, and why two lenses openly disagree.

Forgive, or just stop bringing it up?

The fight ended months ago, but the flinch didn't. A composite couple shows why 'I let it go' and 'I stopped counting out loud' look identical from the outside and rot in opposite directions.

Should I stay or leave? What eight lenses see

A three-year relationship, one person quietly keeping score, and the stay-or-leave question that turns out to be a disclose-or-don't question in disguise. Scored end to end on eight fixed lenses.